Dark sea: 2011

1. It's Different for Men and Women

Men and women are clearly different. The only similarities between men and women are the same species of human. So do not be surprised if in a relationship arises a problem, it is very reasonable. In a relationship, the important thing is not cut off the differences, but how do you view these differences from the positive side of the glasses.

2. Laugh Yourself

Laugh is a pleasant thing, which even can prolong our life. Do not to be too critical of your partner, because as good as any person, we remain human beings full of flaws. With a laugh at ourselves, we would be a nice guy for not being completely serious. Finally, because we create a comfortable environment without anger, then the relationship with your partner will be full of love.

3. Embrace Change

There are only two things certain in this world, increasing age and death. Actually, there is a third certainty, which in fact we face every day and every moment, namely the change. We can try to fight it, but the change will still occur. Accepting change means stop demanding that our lives are not lie that now. We cannot rely only on current happiness - when a beautiful and fun. We know in this world nothing is eternal, including feelings of pleasure. We really - really grateful and happy laughter. But, when everything turned into its opposite we will not lose the love for our partner if we can accept the changes. Remember, fight the change would bring good benefits. Precisely by accepting it, we will find happiness in a relationship.

4. Jump-Start Be Friendly

In any event is necessary to be friendly. Because the friendly attitude is a basic ingredient to growing up warm feelings between two people. What we wanted to get from other people, we have to do it. For example, the most efficacious way to make others kind to us is first to treat them kindly. Start with a view things - little things friendly to your spouse, among others, be a good listener, be polite, apologizing when making mistakes, etc...

Get used to always ask yourself, "What could make him happy today? Is there something I can do?". One lesson that we need to remember is, "Man is like a mirror for other people". So if we want to get the friendly treatment from others, we have to do the same first.

5. Accept Him As He Is

In general, these important tips in building a relationship with a partner. try to write down the discontent and aspects - aspects of your partner's personality which do not meet expectations. Then ask ourselves, "What would happen if I stop hoping he change himself to be perfect just like what i want?" and "What will happen if I decide to love him as he is?". And look for ways to be loving spouse is. Try to be a partner who can forgive and accept reality. People who are really - really love is a person who can love their partners what they are.

6. Share Your Insights

Sharing experiences or new insights are one effective way to learn not to fuss about the problem - a small problem in a relationship. We can share stories, experiences, with a relaxed and loving atmosphere.

7. Burn 'Report Card' That You Create

One of the fastest ways to destroy your relationship is record all the good we have done and which didn't do by our spouse. One reason is because you fear that your spouse doesn't valued or worry that your partner forget the services - your services so far. What is clear, whatever the reason, the act will only hurt yourself. It is better to calculate the contribution of yourself and thankful for all your partner business.

8. Have Non-Defensive Attitudes

Defensive means on the defensive. From the emotional side that we shut ourselves, being rigid, not willing to accept criticism and suggestions, always felt himself he most righteous. Opponents of the defensive is the attitude of receiving. When you are accustomed, you will be better able to face the challenges of life. You will not make an issue anymore - it trivial. You will have the charisma and extraordinary attraction that makes people want to know you. And people who live as your partner will feel the luckiest person in the world.

9. Praise Him With the Heart

By giving praise, indirectly we provide positive motivation to the person. The most important thing you realize is it important to give a compliment. I am sure you will not lose anything if you do it with sincerity. Try to begin to realize how much you are thankful because he's worth. Say what you like about him. Say it often, not just once, not prestige. Because then your partner will appreciate you.

10. Think Calm Before Acting

This tip is more accurately described as an antidote to the feelings.These tips are very useful to overcome the anger that exaggerated the case - a small thing. You can easily look back and realize that trigger feelings of upset, offended, disappointed is not really a big problem. Try to stay calm so you can save much time and energy wasted. And also, if you think calmly for a moment before the act, you will be able to take a more prudent attitude with a more appropriate perspective.

11. Two Coins Side of Problem

The mind is something very powerful. The mind can become slaves the faithful as well as employers who are very cruel, depending on how we focus it. One of the most effective way to make ourselves immune from the sense of frustration is to find the wisdom behind every problem that occurred. Just as a coin has 2 sides, one side described as a problem so we have to reverse into the side of the coin behind it because that's where we can find a silver lining. If you start adapt it, we certainly will not be easily annoyed face the daily problem.

12. 'Yes, Then Why?'

A word that I like and I have often apply. When I'm upset with my partner, the word is effective to melt my upset feelings. For example when I'm angry - angry with himself, "Uh he was with another girl!! He's not honest!". Bummer! Instantly my heart replied, "Yeah so what?". Hahahaaa. I immediately lost my upset feeling because I have no reason to answer the question that my heart and feelings annoyed that it turned into positive thinking.

13. Keep Unnecessary Correction

Example: In a reunion of a husband and wife meet with their friends. The wife tells the story of a successful business, "Thank God my project ultimately supported by PT. BINTANG MAS". However, before other friends had time to respond, the husband said, "Not the PT but CV. BINTANG MAS".

The illustration is an example of an attitude of respect for their partners and it can stretch relationship.

14. Forgive Me

15. Become an Independent Pairs

16. Be a Good Listener

17. Do not Compare Your Partner With Others

18. Avoid the Prosecution Attitudes

19. Fight when Your Heart is Happy

20. Control Your Mind

21. Do Not Speak for Couples Name

22. Stubborn Dangerous

23. Do Different Measures for Different Results

24. Do not Corner Your Partner